We are completely out of our routine this Sunday. Cheer competition has re-routed us. The girls had to be there by 715 a.m. with hair done, and since I promised a ride to our girl’s BFF that meant out the door by 615 so that we could get to the arena in time to do BFF’s hair (she’s at her dad’s this weekend and needed assistance) and have them on time. There will be no sleeping in this weekend. Cue the violins.
So, Mass will be at 6pm tonight which freed up my morning. Which I promptly filled up with a breakfast date with one of my dearest and oldest BFFs. (I don’t have to be at the arena until 245pm so plenty of time!) Sometimes we walk the bridge, paddleboard (ok, that was once, but it was really fun), have sushi or in today’s case: breakfast.
It was a great breakfast and I realized how blessed I am in my authentic sisterhood. The kind of friends who are there for you in a snap, the ones you share TMI with, the ones who will call you on your BS and hold you accountable to life and friendship, the ones who will pray with and for you, give you tough love and give you a shoulder. There is no judgement, only love and truth.
In this life, we have friends spread far and wide and to get to that place of honesty and authenticity takes time and effort and cultivation. It has taken me years to figure out that sometimes friends come and go and that is just life. I no longer try to force friendships or do all the work. It’s mutual effort or it does’t happen and that’s ok, too. Authentic friends are there with you over the years even if you don’t talk every day or week, maybe visits are infrequent as well, but there is effort. There is love. There is a mutual desire to work at the honesty and truth and love that keeps that friendship a priority.
My Hubby is my best friend, confidante and encourager and that is huge and not often the case in marriage. However, there is something inherently different and important in girlfriends and their point of view, their confidences shared and their encouragement. Competition has no place in an authentic friendship only shared life.
Yes. I am blessed. Friendship with my mom and sister. My “sisterhood”. My friends that I’ve had since middle school and grade school. Friends from early marriage and motherhood from church, from playgroups. My Christmas list is long, but my true and blessed sisterhood is far smaller, but keepers for life.
Happy Sunday, friends! Now go make that friend date this week, your heart and soul will thank you!
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.