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Beauty and the judge July 15, 2014

At a football game for my daughter’s cheer squad I saw a young girl (maybe a mom, not sure) with the tiniest of tank tops (barely covering the important parts) and the shortest of shorts in white.  She sat with the football players.  I sat with my jaw to the ground.

At the produce store, a young girl in a barely there t-shirt and bikini bottoms prancing around.

At an interview and struggling to maintain eye contact as cleavage joins in the interview process. 

I have a confession to make.   I am incredibly judgemental.  I try not to be, but truth be told; I judge.  Hard.  It’s a struggle.  Sometimes, it’s because I care enough to point out the obvious, i.e. shorts too short/tight/ripped, etc.  Sometimes it’s within the limits of my own children and setting boundaries and sometimes I turn the ugly, judgemental eye….think along the lines of “What not to wear”.  The irony of it all, is I am no fashion maven and have had enough “what not to wear” moments that Stacey and Clinton should be here yesterday with their $5000 and help a sister out. But.  It’s not the fashion mishaps that concern me (mostly, I find THOSE highly entertaining and educational) it’s the blatant sexism in fashion and the lowering of the moral bar in what should be deemed acceptable. Starting in the toddler section and it doesn’t stop there.

Our girls have been blessed some truly awesome hand-me-downs in the past, however, a large portion of those clothes just kept on going out the door to the thrift store due to inappropriateness.  I mean, do we REALLY need to see ass-crease with every pair of shorts???  We’ve had several talks.  Together. One on one.  At the table.  In the car.  In the stores.  They know exactly where Dad and I stand in what’s allowable (basically school dress code=family dress codes for most things…but not flip-flops, I mean, c’mon…we live in Florida!).  For the most part, they abide by the rules.  In truth, they do each own a pair or two of hootchie shorts, however, they are mainly for the house or sleeping in.  Sometimes, they make it out though.  The point is, we and they are trying and trying hard.

Most importantly, I think they are receiving the message of modesty and the importance of what you wear and the message it sends.  Incredibly difficult is short shopping, dress shopping and back to school shopping (which sadly is upon us).  Challenging also in peer circles and learning to stand your ground and making your parent’s message yours.

Such a tough battle and a constant fight in staying modest.  We can’t advertise sex 24/7 from age toddler up and expect no problems.  Yes, I know that what you wear should be what you want to, but this is life and life isn’t fair.

So I judge.  And I use those judgements as teachable moments.  Mostly.  For the other times, well…..I’m working on that and I have this handy-dandy Matthew to keep me company.

Matthew 7: 1-3  (NASB)

7 “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and [a]by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?

Matthew 7:1-5 (The Message)

1-5 “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.

**Bible verses from the Bible Gateway

And then…this video making ALL the noise.  And it really fits in.  With the immodest dressing.  Overmakeup.  Trying too hard.  I shared it with my girls and I want to work harder by leading by example, otherwise it’s just words, right?  So, thank you, Colbie!!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/13/colbie-caillat-try_n_5581951.html

 

 

#WIWS, blue eyeliner and more…. June 29, 2014

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Joining up with the lovelies at Fine Linen and Purple for a little Mass-wear edition and some Sunday Funday pics.

And so sadly, I don’t have a full shot of my dress, mostly because I thought I had blogged it and was going to steal it from a previous post and yet…..not so much, but I’ll give you what I got!

My super cute-knee-length scoop neck  and black cardi from Kohl's.

My super cute-knee-length scoop neck and black cardi from Kohl’s.

Fave necklace, fun ring and BOOM blue eyeliner...b/c I couldn't find my brown.

Fave necklace, fun ring and BOOM blue eyeliner…b/c I couldn’t find my brown.

Then we had some World Cup and birthday thank yous going on

Then we had some World Cup and birthday thank yous going on and mango salsa making for fish dinner

then we had some of this going on, b/c great waves for jumping over and under and well worth the itty raspberry on my knee from a poorly caught wave

then we had some of this going on, b/c great waves for jumping over and under and well worth the itty raspberry on my knee from a poorly caught wave

Some lovely snapdragons from our Trader Joe's trip..and some yumminess

Some lovely snapdragons from our Trader Joe’s trip..and some yumminess

lastly.....the 44 yo eyes were kicking in this morning, thankfully better by the afternoon.  OY.

lastly…..the 44 yo eyes were kicking in this morning, thankfully better by the afternoon. OY.

 

WIWS….Birthday thrifting special May 18, 2014

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And so with my birthday weekend coming to a close, I’m linking up with the lovely ladies at Fine Linen and Purple and the What I wore Sunday version.

Saturday I found myself with 2 rarities:  money in my pocket (for ME, birthday cashola) and EVERYone else in the fam occupied, so what’s a girl to do?  Thrift!!!

I hit 2 stores I don’t generally go to since they don’t have kid’s stuff and are a little more  high end, but I had cash and no kids so off I went.

Total score:

  • 2 dresses
  • 1 skirt
  • 1 shirt
  • 1 pair of shoes

Total price:  $50, weeeeeeeeeeee, color me super excited!

So, here’s a little peek with today’s Mass outfit!  Enjoy and don’t forget the ladies at FLAP   for more fashion fun!

Last year's Mother's Day/Anniversary gift...most awesome necklace ever from Penny and a Wish and my trust Lia Sofia bracelet (and blooming iris!)

Last year’s Mother’s Day/Anniversary gift from the Hubs…most awesome necklace ever from Penny and a Wish and my trusty Lia Sofia bracelet (and blooming iris!)

Franco Sarto shoes, perfect heel/height and whoa, they match my mulch!  Bonus.  Extra credit my birthday Calla Lilies!

Franco Sarto shoes, perfect heel/height and whoa, they match my mulch! Bonus. Extra credit my birthday Calla Lilies!

 

This dress is super comfy and I love the gathering in the middle, giving me an actual waist....FOR THE WIN!

This dress is super comfy and I love the gathering in the middle, giving me an actual waist….FOR THE WIN!

 

WIWS and other weekend craziness November 10, 2013

Full shot

Full shot

I’ve not linked up with the fashionably forward ladies at FLAP in a while, but to be fair, I haven’t been blogging a ton lately.  Life is fully back into school and activities mode and there are only so many hours in the day.  You KNOW this, I know.  That’s the truth and I’m just getting it in when I can.

Aaaaaaaand, our oldest girl and I went thrifting yesterday and I simply HAD to share my outfit.  Thrift winning!

 

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IMG_5632This is me showing you:  my fave necklace, shirt detailing and MY HAIR.  I actually did my hair.  Looks the same right?  Yep.  That’s why I don’t really do my hair.  It always looks the same to me.  Whatever.

Outfit Details:

Pants…just love the pinstriping (?) is that what it is…khaki and brown.  Can’t go wrong there. $1

Shirt….Love.  This.  Shirt.  All of my colors and super sassy.  $2

Shoes….Aerosoles, BROWN, slides and $2.  yes, thank you.

Jewelry:  not thrifted, but some pieces my beloved Lia Sophia collection.  Call me sucker.

For other weekend news:

Friday night after work and kid pickup/dropoff/pickup/pickup, Hubby and I went to a 50th birthday dinner.  The couple goes to our church and he wanted to do his signature BBQ ribs to celebrate.  In.  Had me at BBQ and me not cooking.   We also met a few other folks from church there (although I only remember about 2 names…I do poorly in large groups) and our associate priest was there as well.  It was a really nice time, great food, good conversation and just so nice to FINALLY be socializing with people from church OUTSIDE church.  It only took 10 years.  Whatever, that’s a whole other post simmering….

Saturday was thrifting and cleaning.  Productive AND fun.

Today I helped our 6th grader do her Science Experiment for her Science project due next week.  I was the photographer.  At Mass  our 8th grader was recognized for his accomplishment in making All State Orchestra for his French Horn.  It’s been a big weekend.

Now swing by the FLAP girls and check out the rest of the ladies!

Happy Veteran’s Day and have a great week!

Blessings!!

 

WIWS, short and sweet version. July 21, 2013

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Linking up at FLAP for the weekly “What I wore Sunday” meme.  Guess what?  I’m sporting a new shirt!  What the what?!?! BAM!

Plus I have to save my typing fingers for Conversion diary‘s blog challenge this week.  I’m a sucker for a challenge.WIWSDeets:

Shirt, Target (clearance rack)

Cardi, Kohl’s a few summers back

Capris, Kohl’s…awhile back

Shoes, IDK.  Old.  Love them.

Necklace, Mother’s Day gift seen HERE

**Don’t hate on the hair, I have already napped in these clothes.  And gone to a cheer meeting.  And the produce store.  It’s how I roll.  check in with the FLAP crew for more and better!

 

WIWS Vol. 10 June 30, 2013

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Linking back up with All the fine, fine ladies @ Fine Linen and Purple with this Sunday’s outfit.  I’ve stopped linking due to outfit repeat, however…..Kendra so sweetly reminded me last week (and others….) that it’s all about sharing, inspiring and having some fun.  So, here goes this week’s Mass fashion:

Mama

Skirt:  Kohl’s, also seen HERE

Shirt:  IDK, Cardigan: Kohl’s

Ring and necklace:  Lia Sophia

Barrette:  Target (I think)

Shoes:  Target (I think)

Girls

I went thrifting yesterday with our oldest son (he loves to thrift!!) and our oldest girl (also a thrifter!!) and scored a ton for all.  Here are two dresses we picked up yesterday.  And when the heck did my oldest girl get so tall and old????!!!  Be still my heart!

Boys

They all looked handsome but don’t really enjoy the photo shoots, so just imagine, khakis, plaids and combed hair.  K?

Including the outtake explaining to my girl to include the WHOLE outfit.

Including the outtake explaining to my girl to include the WHOLE outfit.

Accessories PicMonkey Collage Abby

 

WIWS…Spring has sprung! April 14, 2013

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Sunday Mass fashion sharing with the masses @ Fine Linen and Purple…here we go!!!!!

Another weekend of a dress you haven’t seen on me here yet….exciting stuff, right??  With jewelry you may or may not have seen and if you look REALLY carefully you can see my budding herbs in the background.  My favorite time of year!!!

I’m including my female mininons this week, too….since they are always so helpful with the photo shoot and all.  The menfolk around here generally shun the camera or photobomb or make ridiculous faces….so they’re out!  This week anyway….

Full length....Target dress, many, many moons ago and one of my faves.

Full length….Target dress and shoes, many, many moons ago and one of my faves.

Bracelet gift from my mom a few years ago, ring you've seen this one before and funky necklace a thank you gift from a neighbor for cat sitting.

Bracelet gift from my mom a few years ago, ring you’ve seen this one before and funky necklace a thank you gift from a neighbor for cat sitting.

 

Our oldest girl and her VERY purple shoes (Kohl's) and matching hair bow (farmer's market)  and Aeropostale dress (thrifted) with my (Kohl's) sweater.

Our oldest girl and her VERY purple shoes (Kohl’s) and matching hair bow (farmer’s market) and Aeropostale dress (thrifted) with my (Kohl’s) sweater.

 

Youngest diva sporting her Kohl's blingy flip flops, and hand me down dress and cardi and a hairbow stolen from Mimi long ago!

Youngest diva sporting her Kohl’s blingy flip-flops, and hand me down dress and cardi and a hairbow stolen from Mimi long ago!

 

 

 
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