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What is “busy”? September 13, 2016

Filed under: Family,Life,Parenting,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 9:44 PM

I find myself muttering frequently, “why are we all so effing BUSY?”  It’s ridiculous.  It takes 2 hours and 25 texts for 4 women to decide on a mutual night to celebrate a 50th birthday.  FOR.  THE.  LOVE.

I’ve been mulling it over lately and I realized that actually WE are not really busier, but our children are getting older.  All this “new” independence and ages and stages of childhood to adulthood brings entirely new agendas for each kiddo.  Truly it is more a matter of keeping up with all the different lives going on and slowly stepping back and letting them manage their own business.  Gone are the days of laying out clothes or choosing the blind eye to the ensemble hand-picked by independent young’uns and then off to whatever Mama and Papa had planned.  Period end.

Fast forward 18 years, now it is Mama and Papa with their activities and then each kiddo with their own activities.  Add it up and that’s a whole lotta colors on the calendar.  For us, at this point, some of those colors aren’t really our worry.  Some of the colors just involve a little bit of coordination and conversation but not true involvement on the parental unit’s behalf.  It is a strange new world.  One where I have finally decided that I will forego Open House because I have already been to High School, enjoyed it immensely and have ZERO desire to go back.  I do not want to re-live high school through my children’s activities.  This is where they begin to spread their own independent wings and start taking ownership of their business.  They dang sure don’t need me up in their grill stirring the pot of high school drama.  Sometimes that means they screw it up.  Sometimes we have to step back in and re-evaluate the way things are taking place and prioritize and time manage.  A few steps forward and a bunch more backward.  That’s how the baby bird learns to fly, right?  That’s also how we un-busy ourselves a little bit more.

And suddenly WE aren’t as busy, but our kids are starting to lead their own lives and it’s a little scary, a lot new and a whole bunch good.  I just need to keep repeating that to myself.


Here we are September 9, 2016

Filed under: Gratitude,Life,Marriage,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 10:17 PM


All week long we go, go, go.  You know that feeling, right?  But then something magical happens and it is called Friday.  The kids all have plans.  The ocean is too rough for paddleboarding.  Neither of us is very hungry.  So we make a couple sandwiches and throw on our flip flops and drag our chairs to the beach.

Chat.  Eat.  Sit.  Watch.  Listen.  Feel.

Life is good.  Friday is good.  This moment in time.  It’s good.


Time=Runaway train August 20, 2016

Filed under: Changes,Faith,Kids,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 8:47 AM
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Right now, I just came off Facebook reviewing all the back to school pictures that I missed this week……taking Facebook off my phone has been AMAZEBALLS, y’all.  Truly.  So freeing.  Anyway, I was perusing.  So fun to see how much my friends kiddos have grown.

I was NOT prepared for all of the first year of college send off pics that filled my feed.  One after another.  I see those smiley faces, bags, dorms, full trunks and I know this is what we do.  We grow them up and send them off.  It is the circle of life.  And I just want to cry.  Just a few minutes, a nice big cry in my bathroom, cathartic and snotty and be done.

And then our oldest turned 19 this week and since he nevers lets me take his picture anymore without a crazy face, I posted a throwback to about 12 years old and I’m dying all over again.

Then our almost 17 yo stayed at a friends after the football game last night and I’m just wanting to shackle them all to their rooms.  Forever.  And hug them and kiss them and squeeze them tight.  But I guess that would be weird.  So.  I won’t.

Top it off with the fact that I am on Day 3 of the St. Monica novena for our kids and the spiritual attacks are real.  I was truly mean and grumpy last night.  Embarrasingly so.  I owe my kids an apology.  Already gave one to the Hubs.  And the dreams last night.  So vivid.  So haunting.  So nerve wracking and I know right where they are coming from.  Thereby doubling up the prayers for all (and if you could offer up a few for me that’d be greatly appreciated!).

Anyway.  Father Time, cut the crap and slow this train down.  I’m just here trying to enjoy the journey!

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.



Another summer bites the dust August 12, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 9:55 PM

Monday our kids start school.  Officially bringing the summer of 2016 to an end.  With it starts a new season in our household.  With our oldest graduating this past year and starting the electrical academy at the end of the month that leaves us a Junior in high school.  A FRESHMAN in another high school.  And our ‘last year of middle school’ 8th grader bringing up the rear!!

There have already been changes.  For instance, going to uniforms in public school this year—can I get a YAHOO and an AMEN!??!!?!?!?  Seriously, good stuff.  So, school shopping was really quite easy breezy, thank you Old Navy online.  Aside from a few hours with my youngest just grabbing a few school supplies, shoes and essentials, I really was minimally involved.  Except for providing cash.  Of course.  One day, our Junior even took his sisters to the mall.  And home.  Again.  No involvement by the Hubs and I.  Weird.  And wonderful.  I just don’t really love shopping.  I shop for purpose and I like to get in and get out.  Perhaps I’m kook, but that’s ok.  I had my mall days and I think I overdosed on them, so now…it’s all function for me, which is not so fun for our little mall-loving teenagers.

Orientation and schedule pick up.  Again.  ZERO involvement.  Only because our Junior does his own deal.  I mean he better start practicising now or he’s in trouble in a couple of years.  Our middle schooler caught a ride to morning schedule pick up with her friend since she had cheer in the evening.  And ditto to our Freshman:  went with her friend and caught a ride home with our neighbor.  Bliss. Meanwhile, I dropped in to Target to grab a new water jug and black t-shirt for our cheerleader.  Alone.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about being part of our kiddos’ school life and extracurriculars to a point.  Volunteering when convenient and supportive always to their endeavors.   But they are getting older and it is a blessing to see them spread their little wings.  Bittersweet, but a good bittersweet.  Truly.  The ebb and the flow of life.  Today, it’s a good place, but soon enough I’ll see all the pics of my friends college kiddos off to school and I’ll be on the other side of that ebb and flow.  Right now I’ll enjoy this side.  Next week will begin everyone’s new schedule and that always takes me about two weeks to wrap my head around and get my own schedule re-routed.

This weekend hopefully we will be able to make family dinner happen and chat about what lies ahead for the school year.  Lunches will be packed.  Laundry folded and put away.  Backpacks organized and neat.  Bedtime on time.  Waking up shiny and happy.  I mean….you gotta take advantage of the early days of school before the novelty wears off and they are dreaming of summer again!!


#WIWS The funky, flowy version July 31, 2016

Filed under: Catholicism,Fashion,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 7:58 PM

I don’t even know where to link up to #WIWS anymore.  Or is it even a thing?  Clearly I am not a fashion blogger.  That’s ok though, because really I just wanted to share these AWESOME pants that I finally wore today—their Mass debut.

Rating:  A+ for super light and flowy material, very flowy and funky design

After Mass the Hubs and I went paddleboarding for a while, so I’m giving you a partial shot of #WIWS at the beach…which was a complete fail since I meant to get the ocean in the shot, but bright light and sun you are no friend to seeing what I just took a picture of until I find shade and/or darkness.  So, that’s it.  Oh, well.  The waves were a little rough, but it was an hour well spent with my sweetheart and that combo is never a bad one.


yup, lost those glasses on the way in. dang!

Hope your Sunday was peaceful, restful and that you had a little Jesus time in one form or another!



Facebook + Politics = Inferno July 30, 2016

Filed under: Faith,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 8:12 PM
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At which point I remove Facebook from my phone.  Again.  And am taking the time to completely re-evaluate my friend’s list and purpose of my Facebook usage.  However, one should never act in the heat of the moment and in these next few months……pause might be a better reaction.  Rather than just slice and chop right now.  Maybe. Just maybe.

Here’s my political take, from a non-political and non-confrontational person.

I am a registered Republican and in the past that party has most closely represented my beliefs.  Most closely.  Not perfectly, but in comparison, the people in that party, voted more often like I did than Democrats.  I say this because, although a registered Republican I don’t believe that EVERY Republican deserves my vote.  I have voted Democrat in elections.  Whomever is closest to representing ME gets my vote.  Period.  End.  So, for me, there isn’t a huge die-hard party vote.  And quite frankly, I think that’s how it should be.  (My blog, my opinion)  You vote for who represents YOU, party shouldn’t matter.

Right now, I am not alone in daily having to pick my jaw up from the floor at the absolutely insanity of our choices for PRESIDENT. OF. THE. UNITED. STATES.


Anyway, back to Facebook.  Because I feel SO strongly against our Democrat and Republican nominee choices,  and again, I am not political……I believe that people will choose one or another because that’s what we do and when your choices are poop and crap, you pick one.  The people that drive me INSANE are the ones who actually STAND BEHIND one party and rail against the other, publicly and obnoxiously.  Like their person is the good one?!?!?  Is there a good one???  News flash:  no.  Which makes me wonder how in good and serious conscious can ANYONE even pretend their person is good and worthy of being President.   It is flabbergasting to me.

So, what does one do at this point if you are sorely lacking a cave or sustainable compound in the White Mountains?   For me, I just have to step back.  WAY.  BACK.  I need to re-evaluate who I have on my friend’s list and what I use Facebook for.   While I am friends with a wide variety of people, I am finding SO many “friends” with such toxic posts that I am realizing that I don’t really like them and so, well….that probably doesn’t make a good friendship.  Right?

At the same time, I have to truly sit down and look at ALL the choices and trust me, I am looking hard at the Libertarian choice for the first time in my life.  Which is so much work.  WTH is the Libertarian party?  I obviously slept through that American government class.  (Transparency here, folks….I gave full disclosure at the beginning as to my non-politicalness) So is that a vote wasted?  Well, not if enough people feel like I do.  At the end of the day, if I can live with my choice and vote my conscience and not the mob mentality, I’m ok with that.  At least I’ll know I voted MY values and beliefs and didn’t blindly follow the psychopathic circus.  And if I do….well I dang sure won’t be bragging about it.

I am Tracy and I approve this message.



That’s a wrap! July 26, 2016

Filed under: Changes,Faith,Family,Gratitude,Marriage,Travel,Uncategorized — tracye1 @ 9:18 PM

Sunset tonight brings our vacation to an end.  We finished up with the monumental task of buying a new (to us) vehicle–about as much fun as a visit to the dentist.  Once we get a few things adjusted and it sits in our driveway it will be a little more fun, for now though it is a bittersweet moment for this sentimental sap.

We’ve had our “Green machine” since our oldest daughter was a baby.  14 years, 240,00 miles, countless park visits, potty training, beach days, sports practices and games, concerts, friend visits, family visits, school bus, taxi, girls weekends 2 new drivers, and longevity and dependability during the toughest season of our marriage.  She was and is a faithful girl.  She might currently be a little rough on the aesthetics (Florida sun and failure to wax regularly are a real thing) and drinks a little oil, but she is solid and beast!

Fortunately, to soften the blow, she will go to our oldest son as an alternative transportation for work and days when his motorcyle isn’t the best choice.  Which means the morning vehicle shuffle is about to get all kinds of interesting up in here and a car key hanger is going up ASAP in the kitchen for easy access.  In the grand scheme of life, these are minor inconveniences and not even worthy to grouse about.  Three cheers for our Yukon, well done, good and faithful servant and greetings to our Enclave.

May this next season be as fruitful and faithful as this one.


Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

     There is an appointed time for everything,
    and a time for every affair under the heavens.
 A time to give birth, and a time to die;
    a time to plant, and a time to uproot the plant.
 A time to kill, and a time to heal;
    a time to tear down, and a time to build.
 A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
    a time to mourn, and a time to dance.
 A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them;
    a time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces.
 A time to seek, and a time to lose;
    a time to keep, and a time to cast away.
 A time to rend, and a time to sew;
    a time to be silent, and a time to speak.
 A time to love, and a time to hate;
    a time of war, and a time of peace.


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